Nowadays, living together as husband and wife before marriage seems to be acceptable in Thai society. However, if we look back in the past of Thai society, twenty years ago, living together before marriage was not acceptable at all in Thai society. People in the old generation had their own idea against this idea. It might because they lived in Thai society where they absorbed Thai culture and tradition against living together before marriage since they were born and because their ancestors taught them the value of social norms. They spent many years to learn their couple’s behavior, habit, and did the right things that the society expected them. In addition, the shame played a big role at that time. Women were expected to do the right things that belonged to social norms, and be ashamed for what they did against Thai social norms. Moreover, those who broke the social norms would be condemned from members of that society. It seemed to be a serious judgement for them. In order to avoid any criticism, people in the past chose to follow social norms, and lived with Thai tradition and culture.
On the other hand, living together seems to be a modern idea for new generation. Thai society is likely to accept this idea more than in the past. Currently, if we look around our society, living together seems to be very popular in ages of people teenagers, especially who haven’t finished school yet. One reason might be because they have to study in the place that is far away from their home and parents. Most of them thought that it is like a good way to learn each other. Many of them thought that they do so to save money. They could save the same amount living with same gender friends. They believe they can test the relationship in a "trial marriage."
Some women see it as a step toward marriage while men don’t think so.
Basically, living together is a way to adapt themselves to their couple. Some people thought that they won’t get pressure from any expectation of perfection. If problems occur, it occurs just only two people, not involve with any one in case of feeling, physical and mental abuse. If a person who they are living with is not a real one, they can find another one whom they consider as their real love without any obligation.
For some people who live together think that it is like a good way to achieve some of the benefits of marriage and avoid the risk of divorce.
This is happening in Thai society. The question is “Does it suit to Thai society? Is it too much acceptable? Or are there any impact from living together before marriage to our society?”
How do you think about this issue?
On the other hand, living together seems to be a modern idea for new generation. Thai society is likely to accept this idea more than in the past. Currently, if we look around our society, living together seems to be very popular in ages of people teenagers, especially who haven’t finished school yet. One reason might be because they have to study in the place that is far away from their home and parents. Most of them thought that it is like a good way to learn each other. Many of them thought that they do so to save money. They could save the same amount living with same gender friends. They believe they can test the relationship in a "trial marriage."
Some women see it as a step toward marriage while men don’t think so.
Basically, living together is a way to adapt themselves to their couple. Some people thought that they won’t get pressure from any expectation of perfection. If problems occur, it occurs just only two people, not involve with any one in case of feeling, physical and mental abuse. If a person who they are living with is not a real one, they can find another one whom they consider as their real love without any obligation.
For some people who live together think that it is like a good way to achieve some of the benefits of marriage and avoid the risk of divorce.
This is happening in Thai society. The question is “Does it suit to Thai society? Is it too much acceptable? Or are there any impact from living together before marriage to our society?”
How do you think about this issue?
Posted by Photchana (JJ)
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I really think that living together before getting married is quite acceptable right now in Thai society.Even though some of the old generation think it is against the Thai norm and culture.I have seen many couples who had followed the norm but their marriages did not last very long. so who can we blame for this?
A lot of people said that living together before marriage can cause many proplems such as abortion and
HIV.For this point,I don't think that many people who live together actually do have abortions or catch HIV because they should be aware of how to make a baby or how to avoid catching a disease.
From my view, the most importance making people break down the culture is love. People are blind during ther are falling in love. They can do everything even the other view it as wrong...
I dont' think that living together before getting married would be a problem. It is a private life style of each people. So, it can not said wheater it is acceptable or not, because everybody have their own reasons.
Mr. Chaiyaporn R.
I am not a member of this group, but the topic really interests me because it’s about me. I have been living with my girlfriend for ten years since I was a teenager. We are Thais of course! The longer we live together, the more we love each other. I have never experienced any problems in spite of the fact that she is getting fussier and fussier.
I think I'd rather stay in the middle path. I really disagree about the idea of living together before marriage. Part of it because of we are Thai and we should not forget our beautiful culture. I personally experience with this kind of situation before. It was not directly happen to me but it happened in one of my family member. I know exactly it was bad. It wasn't work out and the whole soceity will blame that you are not a good person (especially if you are woman)
Meanwhile, I don't mind about the idea of living together. If you love each other and be good together. WHY NOT ?
All in all, I think it's how you make it works. I would say being together before marriage is good or bad have nothing to do with Thai clture. It's all about YOU.
Posyes by Gong ^_^
In my opinion, I think living before married has both pros and cons. For pro, it would be good to deeply know each other and it's a time to know how to adjust to live with other. Moreover, it's a time to realize and consider the person you will decided to live with forever is Right for you or not?
For con, as everyone know is the Thai norm or I can called Thai taboo about living together before getting marrried. People in our society still cares and worries about this point. Therefore you are looked as a bad girl or bad boy if you decided to do so.
* Oa Chayanit T.
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