Is It Right or Wrong?

Two days ago, I saw news posted that a teacher of a university in Bangkok forced one of his female students to do oral sex for him so that this student can get a high grade for his subject. And right now this teacher has been arrested for his obscenity or immoral conduct. For this news, it is a quite strange relationship between a teacher and his female student. This event happens without love. But there is an interesting point about the relationship between a teacher and a female student, but with love.

In Thailand, it is well known that the relationship involve with romance between a teacher and a female student is not acceptable, no matter a school teacher or a university professor. Teachers are expected not to make a passionate commitment with their students. But in reality, love can happen to every person with every occupation. And love can happen to a teacher and a student as well. For this point, it is unacceptable. Why?

In my opinion, I don’t think that a teacher and a student cannot love each other. It is their rights to do. But in Thailand the teacher who commits such commitment is not acceptable and is blamed for his immoral commitment by members of society. Is it fair for him? Is it just because only one word “Teacher” that prohibits him and his girl to do such commitment? I don’t think they should be blamed. Love can be occurred between them if they do the right things that are considered not to break morality. Why does just only this occupation have to be blamed? How about other occupation?

It is right saying that teachers are models of their students. But are those teachers human being? Yes, they are human being. They can feel love as much as the others do. Right? The problem is how they deal with this feeling. Someone said that a teacher should not have a passionate with his student. But are those teachers wrong? And if that is a real love between a teacher and his student, does he have to quit his occupation just because he is a teacher? Is that a reasonable reason? How about other people in other occupation? Why aren’t they blamed? What happen to those teachers?
Why do they have to be limited their rights just because of only one word “teacher”?


In your opinion, do you think love between a teacher and a student can be formed up? Is it suitable? Do you have any idea about it?

Posted by Photchana

Should we live together?

Nowadays, living together as husband and wife before marriage seems to be acceptable in Thai society. However, if we look back in the past of Thai society, twenty years ago, living together before marriage was not acceptable at all in Thai society. People in the old generation had their own idea against this idea. It might because they lived in Thai society where they absorbed Thai culture and tradition against living together before marriage since they were born and because their ancestors taught them the value of social norms. They spent many years to learn their couple’s behavior, habit, and did the right things that the society expected them. In addition, the shame played a big role at that time. Women were expected to do the right things that belonged to social norms, and be ashamed for what they did against Thai social norms. Moreover, those who broke the social norms would be condemned from members of that society. It seemed to be a serious judgement for them. In order to avoid any criticism, people in the past chose to follow social norms, and lived with Thai tradition and culture.

On the other hand, living together seems to be a modern idea for new generation. Thai society is likely to accept this idea more than in the past. Currently, if we look around our society, living together seems to be very popular in ages of people teenagers, especially who haven’t finished school yet. One reason might be because they have to study in the place that is far away from their home and parents. Most of them thought that it is like a good way to learn each other. Many of them thought that they do so to save money. They could save the same amount living with same gender friends. They believe they can test the relationship in a "trial marriage."

Some women see it as a step toward marriage while men don’t think so.

Basically, living together is a way to adapt themselves to their couple. Some people thought that they won’t get pressure from any expectation of perfection. If problems occur, it occurs just only two people, not involve with any one in case of feeling, physical and mental abuse. If a person who they are living with is not a real one, they can find another one whom they consider as their real love without any obligation.

For some people who live together think that it is like a good way to achieve some of the benefits of marriage and avoid the risk of divorce.

This is happening in Thai society. The question is “Does it suit to Thai society? Is it too much acceptable? Or are there any impact from living together before marriage to our society?”
How do you think about this issue?

Posted by Photchana (JJ)